Human Design and Conditioning
Conditioning and de-conditioning are some of the first terms we hear when we delve into the world of Human Design. But what does it actually mean?
Back in 2015 when my first daughter was born, I remember someone saying something along the lines of…
“Babies arrive knowing everything they need to know. But over time they forget it as they live in a world that tells them what to do, what to say and how to behave.”
(I wish I remember who it was that said it but obviously I was in the newborn haze!)
Essentially, they were talking about conditioning.
Yes, of course human babies need adults to help them – they are one of the most helpless species at birth relying on their caregivers for everything from food and shelter to nappy changes and comfort.
But, without realising it, the way we raise our children conditions them in ways most of us are unaware of.
And this is the case for all of us, even the most conscious, enlightened souls on the planet pass on some form of conditioning to their kids; it’s impossible not to. It’s being aware of it (and then committing to changing it if it’s unhelpful) that counts.
Human Design and conditioning
What does conditioning look like for each Human Design type?
There are so many nuances to this that it’s hard to put into an email, and it’s something we delve deeper into during a family Human Design reading. But there are also some similar ways each energy type is conditioned, purely because children, when left to be, live out their design perfectly. It’s us as the grown ups that often struggle with this and we say and do things that bring kids out of their alignment.
These might also sound familiar to you as a grown up…
“Do it this way, not your way”
“Slow down, this is not how we do things”
“Follow the rules”
“You’re so sensitive, what’s wrong with you?”
“Why can’t you make a decision and stick to it?”
“Why are you always so late?”
“Stop being so bossy”
“Children should be seen and not heard
“No one asked your opinion”
“What do you know, you’re just a child”
“Don’t quit, you’re so good at that”
“What will people think?”
“It doesn’t matter if you don’t like it anymore, we are relying on you to finish it”
“You’re the only one who can do this, get it right”
“Calm down and be quiet, you’re too loud”
“These are the rules and we must follow them”
“That makes no sense. We aren’t going to do that / go there.”
“We need to work together on this and you need to agree.”
Human Design and conditioning
Do you recognise any of these being directed towards you as a child?
Have you heard yourself say these things to your own kid?
If so, it’s ok – there is no shame or judgement here. Now that you’re aware (and if you know a little more about your child’s energy type) you can start to look at ways you can stop yourself before saying these things, and recognise that it’s likely that your child is living beautifully within their design and a different way of communicating with them might help the situation a little.
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